Emotional Distance

5 commentsPhotography,Toronto

Ivy and Al moments after being pro­nounced Mrs. and Mr.

I had nev­er pho­tographed a wed­ding, so when my friends-by-proxy Ivy and Al invit­ed me to be a part of their hap­py day and take a few pho­tos, I was hap­py to oblige.

On the plane to Toronto I whiled away the ten­sion-filled hours (I hate fly­ing) read­ing two books on the sub­ject. Experienced wed­ding pho­tog­ra­phers rec­om­mend that one main­tain an emo­tion­al dis­tance, much like a sur­geon would with a patient. They also claim the cam­era guar­an­tees that — espe­cial­ly SLRs, which remain glued to the photographer’s face.

When I arrived in Toronto, I only knew the maid of hon­or Corinne (the proxy), who also hap­pens to be one of my best friends. And of course, I met Marlena (mega!) one of Ivy and Corinne’s friends who roomed with us. I then met the cou­ple-to-be Ivy and Al very briefly the fol­low­ing day. Then the evening before the wed­ding I met every­one else. It was an inti­mate din­ner par­ty; friends and fam­i­ly totaled less than 50 peo­ple.

But… At the wed­ding, I found myself not only shar­ing in the emo­tions (yes I’m a macho dude so you can imag­ine how hard that is for me to admit): the excite­ment and antic­i­pa­tion, then the col­lec­tive­ly held breath as the vows were read, and then the tears of joy at the phrase “by the pow­er vest­ed in me…”

By the end of it all, the emo­tion­al dis­tance had been reduced to nil. And the pho­tos show it.

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Hibzy October 10, 2010 at 9:36 pm

Powerful! ;) I love it

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Samsam October 11, 2010 at 7:05 pm

I thought that the picture was from a movie! :)
Congratulations Avy & Al!

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samsam October 11, 2010 at 7:11 pm

I thought that picture was from a movie! :)
Congratulations Ivy and Al!

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mona October 12, 2010 at 7:32 am

Oh my gosh it's beautiful! I thought it was from a movie too.

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Meedo October 16, 2010 at 5:37 am

Thanks Mona! All this time I thought this comment was from my mom. (Now I realize that when I thanked her the other day she probably had no idea what I was talking about!) x

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